One incident I've had recently, wondering how/if I should have done it differently.
Hot blonde girl walking through campus, go over, compliment, after 5 minutes I ask what she is up to at the moment and suggest that we go for coffee. She says that she was out the night before and really just wants to go to bed right now but would love to go some other time. She gives me her number and a couple of days later I text her (would like to have done one right away and one the next day but my phone charger wasn't working and so I was waiting on a new one).
I text her and she agrees to meet up for a smoothie on Saturday. She cancels on the day, but is very apologetic, has a good excuse (we got exams in a week) and suggests we reschedule it.
Ok, first offence but she sounds genuinely guilty about cancelling it, so I suggest Monday would be better because thats my essay hand in day and it would be a nice way to celebrate.
Same thing happens on the Monday, I get a text a few hours before, with a good reason and a suggestion to meet up again after exams (this will be in 2 or 3 weeks time).
I think that even though she clearly wants to meet up, these 2 cancelled dates have set a precedent and the long wait will create high expectations. Considering how short a time we actually spoke to each other, I remember barely anything about her and would probably have trouble recognising her if we agreed to meet somewhere. I decide that its probably not worth bothering with.
So I send a text: "i don t want these cancellations to set a pressident (sic.). we ll do something after exams if you promise me that you are actually working. if you are procrastinating i won t waste my time"
To which I get the reply "Its precedent not pressident. Dont waste your time then you prick. How dare you talk to me like that."
It's not the fact that I lost her that bothers me, its just that I would rather not come off as a prick, especially considering that you are liable to bump into people at uni on more than one occaision. Also, I'm not here to provide bad experiences for women. I guess that she was nothing but nice to me then I was unnecessarily harsh in return.
What I'm wondering is... is there a good way to say "listen, we either do this now or not bother" and not have the girl hate you?
I should also double check my spelling. It's probably not what did it, but it didn't help matters.