I usually arrange to meet up in the evening. The plan is to go to a coffee shop for 45/60 mins to build comfort, at say 7/8pm, then to a bar afterwards for seduction.

Shoes are one of the most important parts of your look, if not the most important. They may not get complimented upon but they're noticed more than one can think. If you've got the shoes and the hair right, you can pretty much base your whole look on that.

You can look at a man/woman's footwear and guess their whole look and 99% of the time, you'd be right. Let's say we're playing a game where you have to guess a someone's personality and look just by looking at their footwear. Someone wearing trainers will have gotten a completely different assumption than someone wearing converse or smart shoes and vice versa.

It's the little details, if you're a Don Draper kinda guy you wouldn't wear a good tailored suit and chuck on just any odd pair of shoes. If you're going for the rockstar look, a good pair of boots/shoes would hold the rest of the look together.

Happy shopping!

You're not the only one struggling with day 2s.

I know its frustrating, but in these situations, try not to beat yourself up about it. Keep learning about women and keep playing the game. You also seem to be very worried about the bounce back, the move you will use to get her back, etc... worry about the interaction instead.

You said it was a fun/flirty date, but she was obviously not as into it as you were. Admit that to yourself, and learn from it!

Some tips:
1. Learn to record your dates/approaches. A simple iPhone using the voice memo app and a headset can serve a discrete way of recording a date. This might sound creepy but if you're getting frustrated by your dates, it serves you to go back and listen to moments during the conversation where you were stumped, moments where you could have expressed yourself a little better, etc.
 (great headset for this: http://amzn.to/167JR13)

2. Get instant dates! If your approach has hooked, and the girl likes you, use that momentum with her to take her for a coffee right there. You might think this is pointless because you're not going to get any pussy from your instant date. Well that may be true, but chances are if the girl wants to see you again after a successful instant date, she is seriously considering you as a romantic partner. Watch Jon Matrix's instant date with the french girl in Effortless. So far all of my big daygame "closes" have come from instant date girls.

Instant dates are also a good way to go on a date if you've got no leads and some free time after work

Awesome, exactly what I wanted to know, cheers Stoosh    I now feel in a place to stand my ground.

You seem very well informed Stoosh, are you legal or law enforcement?

Cheers

Mark

Great reply from Rumba, cheers mate.

Since I have posted somewhat non-positive replies under this post, just thought that I owe it to the guys and daygamers here to share a success story that happened to me last Saturday.

Out of a bit of frustration I went down to the street and just in 10 mins I opened 2 attractive English girls, chatted with the second for about 10mins and got her number, and have been texting with her for 2 days now.

It pays off guys, it has to pay off at some point. I didn't actually need to warm up as I have internalised the skill set (or some great part of it) and it was ready to go when the attractive girl walked by.

Just keep believing guys and throw away all the negative thoughts and limiting beliefs about age, race, etc.

Cheers all