My 2 cents. I don't think that you can change other people. You can only change yourself.
How do you do that? I think the first level is awareness. Become aware you are in the box.
I have achieved this one. Horay!
Second, take the hammer and smash the box or burn the matches one by one to melt it
It takes courage, I am still working on it. I am thinking I have nothing to lose except hurting my ego. I have to take action now!