hand on heart, ross jeffries HATES women.
david x is a snake oil salesman, who seems to have good ideas, but gets carried away with his megalomania.

yep, I've got a dictionary.

Best of luck man!

but what if mode one suits your personality?  and you do it G or PG rated - "Hey, I think you're cute and I want to hook up with you. We should meet up, see if we have some fun together, and go from there!" etc - I don't think that's TOO strong. Also, saying it with a cheeky smile on your face, whilst maintaining eye contact.

Or you could perhaps say "Hey, I think you're cute/hot/gorgeous/adorable/whatever and I want to kiss you." (then the rest the same as above)

You say both after - "Hi, excuse me, I know this is a bit random, but..." take your pick. Hope it helps.

I thought I'd respond, as no one else has and it's been a while etc.

From the countless reading I've done - the most simplest way to tackle this are david x's rules.
"who cares what she thinks?"
"I'm the most important person in the relationship."

For me this works on and off with my self perception. I'm pretty jekyl and hyde with it all. When I force myself outside, I usually end up at the pub for liquid courage, but that turns into another and another etc... Also I do it alone and always conclude with 'I'll do it tomorow.'

I remember alan roger currie summed up confidence as 'the firm assumption that you will get whatever it is you want' (not an exact quote, but the meat of it).

I think it all narrows down to molesting the comfort zone. but yeah, it's hard. we've been conditioned to be 'nice' and put women on pedestals (largely through movies) it's our second nature. we've associated the situation that way for at least over a decade... so of course it's going to be strange.

I for one am concerned about coming across as 'sleazy' with my directness - I've actually gotten into a fight or two via nightgame in the past because of this. my line was 'do you want to touch my nipple?' (i would then charge them $1 - as part of the gag) this was supposed to make the girl laugh. but instead their friends would drag them away and then I had a couple of guys threatening me.

We're listening to our survival mode, this causes AA.

Well done!

maybe it was a sign from god, that she wasn't the one for you...

two girls came on the stage and he asked 'what's your favourite colour' then repeated the question to the second girl. he then asked them their favourite food. he then asked them their 2nd favourite colour. then their second favourite food. then allen roger currie came and saved him.

I couldn't look. That is not AT ALL direct!

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It would be great to read what drove them to succeed. What dead ends they hit, what they used to motivate themselves to keep going etc. If they ever felt like throwing in the towel etc. How long it took.