A good rule of thumb when running these sorts of websites is to maintain regular updates or else you'll lose listeners/viewers/potential clients.

I asked that question because you seem to take any jabs at Mode One as being personal insults. This is my last response to you:

The Mode One theory is sound but you are just bad at teaching it.

Why is it so important to you that you tell people what "true direct" is? From my perspective it just seems that you believe in one thing and want others to believe in it too.

The Mode One supporters come across as evangelical christians preaching about "true direct" and how you can only truly be direct if you do it exactly as it is laid out in Mode One. If this is "true direct" then why can't you just let people discover it for themselves?

Alan: I see on another forum that you like this post on puahate.com: http://www.puahate.com/showpost.php?p=71810&postcount=10

What's messed up is that despite all of this arguing this is exactly the same conclusion that I came to ages ago. I realised it was far simpler to "be myself" instead of acting out other people's idea of who I should be.

The problem that I have with Mode One is that for me direct and honest behaviour has to be free of labels because otherwise it belongs to someone else and is therefore not a core component of who I am. So by labelling myself as  "Mode One" I am not being direct and honest. It just becomes another mask that I put on.

Only by not identifying with particular techniques are you free to use all of them. It is basically the central meaning of "formless form"

I wanted to post this as one of my last real contributions to daygame.com as I noticed there were a lot of people identifying and attaching themselves to particular methods and techniques which I believe is counter-intuitive to growth and change.

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How do I be myself?

Asking that question will always take you away from the answer.

Letting another person tell you how to be yourself is like following instructions on how to breathe. As long as you let another person do it for you then you will always be a prisoner.

In order to realise how to be yourself you must first understand exactly what you think you are.

The worst thing that a parent can do to their child when they're born is to name them because it instills in them from birth a sense of "I and not I" or "is and is not". Your entire persona is then constructed around the name until, as an adult, you identify with an immensely complex and multi-layered ego.

It is essentially like a house of cards.



The foundations of the pyramid are where your core beliefs reside and on top of it are built more and more layers until you hit the very top where your everyday thoughts sit. If you notice the top of the pyramid is very narrow in relation to the bottom. That is because, as the product of many years of conditioning, we tend to see the world through a very narrow tunnel of reality where there are few options.

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We have become trapped within thought patterns that repeat over and over again until our life becomes a series of habitual routines.

The ego has such a grip over us that we will often blame anyone and everyone outside of us for all the problems in our life. But the thing is if we act a certain way then people will hold preconceptions of who we are and then subsequently repeat them back to us. It essentially creates a feedback loop:

experience --> thought --> experience --> thought --> experience

Your thoughts shape experience which then in turn shape your thoughts.

A girl is not responsible for the fear and anxiety you feel because what you feel is based entirely on how YOU perceive her. Basically you choose to feel afraid. How silly is that?

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The techniques that we learn are just tools that we use to acquire what we want in life. But how can you know what you want if you are always thinking other people's thoughts and speaking other people's words?

To be yourself is to stop thinking and just breathe. It is natural and requires no effort on your part.

You just do it.

Ultimately you're responsible for your own thoughts and feelings on the matter so let's not continue this cycle of negativity by blaming other people.

You know what... I give up. I genuinely do not care anymore.

If anyone wants to go and talk to a girl then go and do that. Don't fuck around with books, bootcamps, gurus and all that bullshit. That is how I honestly feel about this whole industry but never bothered to say because Andy and company (who are nice guys) are running a business.

It is completely and utterly retarded to expect another person to tell you how to be yourself.

Then you are contradicting yourself.

You've been arguing that a man can be "direct" non-verbally just as much as he can verbally.  And I'm now asking you specifically to explain and describe HOW.  I asked you two questions that would give you the opportunity to substantiate your argument(s).

You now won't do that.  That is your choice.

But ... then why argue that point?

You've just lost credibility with me on this issue and debate mate.

Good day.

IT DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION!

I just said to you in clear terms that I will not dwell on what could be. It is insane to talk about how a hypothetical man would use verbal and non-verbal direct game with a hypothetical woman.

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If you are so dense that you could not possibly imagine any situation where that could be done then let me give you a vague description: You can use non-verbal direct game in the midst of a group of women and then verbalise your sexual intentions when you're ready to take her out of that social group (presumably back to your place).

How is this difficult to understand? You seem to have immense difficulty in understanding anything outside of your own narrow tunnel of reality.

Let me make it absolutely crystal clear for you: I hate lengthy conversations with women... I actually abhor it because it taxes all of my energy so one day when I had left a club with a group of friends I thought "fuck it, I'll just tell her directly" and then I did. Sound familiar? The only difference between me and you is that I can do both because I don't believe in either. It might sound paradoxical to you but I don't give a shit.