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Self Perception (Inner Game) / Day game relationships - Holding your frame to be fair to everyone!
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Hi gents,
I thought I'd make a quick post over a subject which I found difficult, when I encountered it for the first time, and which I'm sure other guys will find a dilema. This post is aimed towards intermediate day gamers i.e guys who are getting D2's, D3's and may be getting lays as a result.
One of the first things I encountered when I started meeting girls through day game approaches, on my return to London, was how after we'd slept together, they took the frame that we were now in a relationship and would start suggesting going to a friends party, weddings, dates to the movies etc..This is understandable as the vast majority of girls who meet a guy during the day have a clear mind about what they want in a guy and by agreeing to sleep with him, confirms in their mind that he could be a great b/f. In bars and clubs, alcahol can play it's part and so one night stands are written off as a mistake!?
Now when I lived abroad, it rarely came up as I was always honest in how long I'd be residing in that country, so if a girl wanted a relationship, she let me know or if she was happy to have something casual, we'd carry on seeing each other, however most guys on this forum will be doing day game in their own countries. Now for some guys who are looking to meet a girl and have a monogonous relationship, then if that girl makes you happy, then great, hope you have a happy time together.
However if you simply want to meet/date several girls without getting serious then this scenario can present a difficult situation, which several newbies I know have just agreed with her, thinking they can just carry on gaming and have 'on tap' sex whenever they want!?!
However this is totally unfair to the girl involved, who thinks she has a ?boyfriend? but who will eventually get lied to, and let down when the guy starts getting dates with other girls he approaches and who will ultimately end in tears when the guy decides he doesn?t want to see the girl anymore. I know because I did this, and it is not a nice thing for all parties, especially the girl.
BE HONEST!!
I know it seems a good idea at the time, but hold your frame of not wanting anything serious if you genuinely don?t want it! Yes, you will probably lose girls after one night, but it?s better that the girl leaves you feeling disappointed rather than devastated!!
Peace,
Rumba!
I thought I'd make a quick post over a subject which I found difficult, when I encountered it for the first time, and which I'm sure other guys will find a dilema. This post is aimed towards intermediate day gamers i.e guys who are getting D2's, D3's and may be getting lays as a result.
One of the first things I encountered when I started meeting girls through day game approaches, on my return to London, was how after we'd slept together, they took the frame that we were now in a relationship and would start suggesting going to a friends party, weddings, dates to the movies etc..This is understandable as the vast majority of girls who meet a guy during the day have a clear mind about what they want in a guy and by agreeing to sleep with him, confirms in their mind that he could be a great b/f. In bars and clubs, alcahol can play it's part and so one night stands are written off as a mistake!?
Now when I lived abroad, it rarely came up as I was always honest in how long I'd be residing in that country, so if a girl wanted a relationship, she let me know or if she was happy to have something casual, we'd carry on seeing each other, however most guys on this forum will be doing day game in their own countries. Now for some guys who are looking to meet a girl and have a monogonous relationship, then if that girl makes you happy, then great, hope you have a happy time together.
However if you simply want to meet/date several girls without getting serious then this scenario can present a difficult situation, which several newbies I know have just agreed with her, thinking they can just carry on gaming and have 'on tap' sex whenever they want!?!
However this is totally unfair to the girl involved, who thinks she has a ?boyfriend? but who will eventually get lied to, and let down when the guy starts getting dates with other girls he approaches and who will ultimately end in tears when the guy decides he doesn?t want to see the girl anymore. I know because I did this, and it is not a nice thing for all parties, especially the girl.
BE HONEST!!
I know it seems a good idea at the time, but hold your frame of not wanting anything serious if you genuinely don?t want it! Yes, you will probably lose girls after one night, but it?s better that the girl leaves you feeling disappointed rather than devastated!!
Peace,
Rumba!
