As we all know we have a wealth of amazing information at our disposal from people like Andy, Yad, Tom and others like Adam Lyons. The truth is all the information that is taught is totally useless if you dont make the most of it, the PUA's can point you in the right direction but it is all for nothing unless you have solid inner game. Inner game is mostly about confidence and self perception which is obviously very important but there is also another side to inner game that almost never gets mentioned. The other side is mental sharpness, now we are all told that you have to be in the moment and you have to be totally present in order to calibrate the situation and know where you are leading things. This is often easier said than done but I discovered a very simple technique a couple of days ago that in a very short space of time has made a big impact on the way I approach women.

For about ten minutes a day or longer find a small spot to focus on like the tip of a pencil or a small dot and keep your focus for as long as you can without being distracted and without looking away. This has significantly improve my mental sharpness, when I am talking to a girl I am totally present and all of my focus is on the situation and what is happening rather than having wandering or nervous thoughts. I remember the techniques better and I seem to know the right thing to say rather than thinking "oh shit what do I say now" and I avoid classic mistakes such as leaning in and focusing the conversation on myself which is probably the thing I am most guilty of.

The second tip for mental shaprness is very obvious...Get enough sleep! I cannot stress how important this is. When you are fully refreshed you are a lot more conscious of what is happening around you and you have a better natural energy. So if focus is your problem give these two things a go and I am sure you will see big changes just as I have.

One of the main things that hinders my game is that I have a very low attention span. This makes it much harder for me to learn the skills taught by Andy, Yad, Tom or anyone else. I find myself watching the daygame blueprint and about 10 minutes in I wont be able to concentrate and my mind will wander whilst watching or maybe even stop watching completely and play a video game or I end up web browsing and then when I am on a date or I am talking to a girl I usually cant remember hardly any of the skills that have been taught. My memory is actually quite good, its just that I find my mind often wanders in different directions when I am trying to learn something and my focus drops very quickly. I feel that if I could get past this problem then I would see drastic changes to my skills with women as well as socialising skills in general.

I watched Andy's video on state shifting and how you can use it to get yourself in a more extrovert and creative mindset, ideal for approaching women. I was wondering if there was a way to shift my state to one that has higher levels of concentration with the ability to absorb information better, a state that is perfect for processing and learning information. Any advice on how to shift my state or any tips for focus and concentration would be greatly appreciated as I feel this is the one thing holding me back.

I went on a date on wednesday with a girl who was easily a solid 9. The comfort and building rapport went very well, I used Andys question and statement loop and let her do most of the investing however I definitely didnt project my value enough and didnt banter or use humour as much as I normally do. The day after I did something a bit stupid, I texted her and asked if she wanted to meet up on saturday should have definitely waited a few days longer. I havent got a reply and to be honest doubt I will get one now. I assumed that because we were on a date I had the attraction side covered and could get by with just rapport, a foolish error on my part. Anyway I am willing to move on and look at it as a learning experience and find someone else but at the same time I dont have anything to lose by trying to resurrect the situation. Is there any advice anyone can give?