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« on: June 11, 2013, 11:51:46 PM »
"Because I imagine the girl thinking ?ok, that was nice to talk to you, but we know each other only for 2 min, the first ?natural? topic is over, now you are switching to an other subject, I start wondering when all this will end because I have other things to do?.
I always imagine here thinking this and end the conversation, because when a stranger comes talk to me, even if I find it interesting, I quickly start having the same thought."
- You are thinking too much. She is not thinking this. She is not analysing the conversation she is having with you as she is having it. Stop analysing, try and be in the moment and just talk off the top of you head as you do with your friends.
I used to analyse conversations I had with people over and over again, I thought it was normal. Once I realised that it wasn't I made an effort to stop and over time it went away.
"The problem is that sometimes, I directly start teasing the girl and she respond badly, like she feel attacked (even when I do it with a big smile), or she may even ignore my comment and continue what she was doing?."
- You are probably not delivering it in the way you think you are. You can get away with a lot if you have a smile on your face. Maybe tone it down until you get more comfortable with it. Teasing should feel natural, like the way you tease your friends. If it doesn't then it isn't being done right.