The Power Of Silence

[Lummers]

Silence is a powerful thing.

Most of the people in pick up are wondering this:

'Shit, what do I say to a beautiful woman!?'

Here's an idea. Don't say anything... That may seem counter intuitive but here's the deal.

Whilst there's a silence there's one thing going through your head.

'Oh God.. A Silence. She's going to think we have nothing to talk about. I'm not connecting with her. Ahhh fuck.. Ermmm I must fill it. What can I say...? What should I say!?... '

How much emotional investment is that!? - You have just mentally exhausted yourself on this girl.
So why don't we flip the script!

Be silent. Stay silent.

Chances are she's thinking the same thing.
She'll be worried about that silence too, she might be waiting for you to fill it, or she might be panicking and searching manickly in her mind for something to say.

Let her do the emotional investing. We all know the more she is invested, the more she is attracted!

Why don't you just concentrate on something else whilst there's a silence. Enjoy the scenery.

'Wow, that tree over there is nice...'
'My god, she really is sexy...'
'Hey, I can feel the breeze on my face.. ha, that's nice.'

Whilst she's thinking.

'Fuck... I have to say something. He's not speaking. Is he interested in me!? Omg. He's going to think we have nothing to say. Ermmm. Errm.. .... ' --- 'So how is your.. Err... Work going?'

There's nothing wrong with silence.
Enjoying it shows you're relaxed, comfortable and high value.

[Cloud Chaoszero]

I think silience is ok to a point. If you barely interacted with a woman, you have the "universal 3sec rule" to expand on the previous topic or create a new topic before the conversation exponetially becomes dull. And in order to do that, you gotta improv some things yo

but silence overall can be good if your both of you have known each other for a little while, or are on a date.

[Laurence]

I wonder if people talked less in the past, before TV, radio, computers etc... It seems now that people often want to fill space, want to answer phones even when engaged in other activities, are happy to talk on mobiles in public places disturbing the (possible) peace of those around them... Research suggests that women talk a lot more than men - I wonder if this was the case thousands of years ago, or whether women talk more because the conventions of appreciating the benefits of silent communication have been lost.

[Lummers]

I wonder if people talked less in the past, before TV, radio, computers etc... It seems now that people often want to fill space, want to answer phones even when engaged in other activities, are happy to talk on mobiles in public places disturbing the (possible) peace of those around them... Research suggests that women talk a lot more than men - I wonder if this was the case thousands of years ago, or whether women talk more because the conventions of appreciating the benefits of silent communication have been lost.

And people say I think too much...

[BeStrong]

Laurence: IMO woman talk more because that's the way they bond with each other. They are more emotional so they need to communicate(verbally) more. Men on the other hand talk less because we are more logical than emotional so we get straight to the point = we talk less. Also we bond through action more than woman do = we don't need to talk so much.

Lummers: I think I get what you mean but you presented it in misleading way(IMO). See James Marshall videos. He uses silence quite often. He's not affraid to put the pressure on the girl by being quiet. She'll 'crack' and starts talking because she'll be more unconfortable with the silence then you. Silence is powerfull but you have to be really confident with it and not be affraid of it.

If you'll listen to or see some videos of David X you'll see how slow he talks. How long pauses he uses. It's quite similar and powerfull but in other way with different intent.