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Author Topic: running out of things to say/ plowing through resistance/ having 3 minute convo'  (Read 602 times)

Offline TheNaturalUnnatural

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During daygame i run out after saying these or some variation of these  you look nice/ you must get this alot/ whats your name/ how old are you/ where abouts are you from.......


i dont know what else to say honestly  being impromptu is good but if im consistently running out of things to say i need to prepare something, though i dont know what.....  how do i have an actual 3-5 min convo like a see yad and sasha do??               im 19 so nothihng to out there


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The best way is to have some sort conversational structure to follow so you can smoothly transition from breaking the ice to actually getting to know someone.

For example, what I do is find out what they are upto today just to break the ice and maybe tease them a little/throw is some humor to make them feel comfortable. I will then find out what they do job wise or study wise and use that to connect with them. You could also talk about the city you are in and what she likes doing for fun.

The thing is with practice you can use pretty much use anything she says to go off down other conversational threads, resulting in a natural and comfortable conversation just like you are talking to a friend.

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Try the old "Statement-Question-Statement" response.
For example:

You: "So where are you from?"
Her: "XYZ"!
You: "Really! I always wanted to go there. Is it true that you can..?"
Her: "Blah, blah, blah.."
You: "Yeah, love to go to XYZ; so what are you up too tonight?"
Her: "Me and some friends are going to an Italian restaurant to celebrate..."
You: "Oh man, I love Italian food. My favourite is xxx. In fact I know this cool little restaurant that does the most amazing...(seed meeting to go there!)..

You get the idea. Rather than interview type questioning, your making statements/assumptions/cold reads etc.. which makes you (hopefully!?) stand out from other guys!

Peace,
Rumba!  8)

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Check out my comments in this thread -

http://daygame.com/cafe/index.php/topic,843.0.html

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but i literally have no assumption to make about them lol seriously they are just hot


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Come on thats silly. You can always make assumptions.   Stop focusing on the hotness and be more observant. How is she dressed? Does she have a tan? Is she carrying anything?

Playful, jokey assumptions that are obviously not true work great. You can literally say anything.

Practice when you go about your normal day. In your head make assumptions about everyone.

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ya the fake assumptions are great - say she's dressed nice you can say something like -

'let me guess you're an investment banker during the day but a new-wave japanese punk band bassist at night'

or if they have an accent you can say -

'i like your accent, let me guess...your from the east coast, brooklyn!'

it's pretty easy, just get out of your head and have fun with it.

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ooo i see turn it playful right of the bat by exaggerating of making a totally wrong observation great

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Yes, playful is the name of the game until she hooks.  Look at it from her point of view. Whats gonna be more interesting to her? Some guy starting a boring conversation that she could have with her hairdresser or a guy who is openly having fun and flirting with her?

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Did you watch any of the Sherlock Holmes TV series that was on BBC last year?
Basically, Sherlock looks at people and after a minute or so he knows pretty much everything there is to know about them. He analyses their clothes, their body language, their speech patterns. Now, when he does it, it seems an almost supernatural feat, but he never says anything that is beyond the realm of logic. He just studies people and make logical conclusions.

If one man can do something, that means any man can do it. To do it on a basic level just requires a bit of practice. As a little warm up thing, when I'm on the tube, I just look at people and see what I can deduce about their characters. You would be surprised at how much you can come up with just by looking at someone and thinking about what everything means. Also, with everyone you know and after every interaction you have, think to yourself "how could I have known x about them from the way they presented themselves?". You'll start to notice patterns and you'll get better at assumptions.
The brilliant thing is that it doesn't really matter if you get it right or not. Mix up assumptions with a bit of humour and it doesn't matter if you are completely off the mark.

Here's a simple example. Say you see a girl on the street on a weekday. This ALREADY narrows down the set of assumptions that you can make, she is a tourist, on a lunch break or has an evening job. If she is a tourist, she will be wearing casual clothes, not be walking with any sort of purpose and have a foreign accent if you talk to her. If she is on a lunch break, she will be wearing business clothes and be walking with purpose. Otherwise, chances are she has an evening job, is a student or has some job with irregular hours (eg. a model).