Let me quote a recent email I received from an exceptionally inspiring young man named Morten Haugum Hake
It's short and to the point
˝I wanna get this out my chest once and for all! I get tons of guys asking me how to get over their fear of approach, and there is trillions of advice out there on how to overcome it, and many of them are good but...
...Listen,
What it ALL come down to is stepping the fuck up, and taking responsibility for your life. Many so-called "men" need to figure out if they want to handle this "woman-situation" or not. You cannot go through life, reading all this dating and self-development stuff, and do nothing about it. If you continue like that, all the theory will only make you feel worse, cause now you're supposed to be able to do this stuff, right?
I dare to claim that with the right, intense training you can get AMAZINGLY good with women in 2-5 months(!!) - Like women-packed-around-you-all-day-long-good-with-women. That means that if you have been in this community for over half a year, and still not getting good results, you are doing something wrong. And I probably know what it is...
All of us have a basic fear of rejection. We are all afraid. We all use WAY too much time to be concerned, worry or fear the worst.
IF YOU WANT TO GET RID OF THOSE AWFUL THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS, THIS IS WHAT YOU DO:
Like the song "sunscreen" tells us: Do one thing every day that scares you.
The key to achieving and feeling awesome is to face your fears. And the funny thing is that it is not hard AT ALL. It's very easy. The only thing you need to do is direct you body in a particular direction or manner, and open your mouth. In other words: just do it. NOTHING is stopping you. Not even your fear can stop you as long as you are steering your body to DO IT.
Let me give you an example.
You are out walking and you see a hot girl. What do you do? You MAN THE FUCK UP, and put one leg in front of the other, then the first leg in front of the second again. That will make it a walk...
You walk up to her, and here comes the magic; you open your mouth and press air from your lungs out through your mouth, and a sound will come out. That sound is the sound of you stepping up in life, and taking responsibility! Whatever you say now doesn't matter that much for now. You will soon realize it wasn't as dangerous as you thought, and you earn 10 confidence-points.
This technique by the way is called "starting your mental engine mechanically". Don't wait for the spirit to move you. Take action, dig in, and you move the spirit! Do what you fear, and the actual fear disappears.
So what is the answer to eliminating fear of approach? The answer is the same as with any fear in life. Step up and take action... NOW!
Love
Morten ˝
Good luck!
- The Daygame Cafe Management
