No one asked you to stir up shit on daygame.com or thelss.com and god knows what other forums you've been on (you've mentioned them in passing) but you do it anyway.
False propaganda, and you know it. Matter of fact, I have some private inbox messages from at least 6-8 guys from The LSS Forum which said something to the effect of, "Alan ... at first we thought you were a 'troublemaker,' but then, on closer examination, we realized you were just defending your 'brand.' We quickly realized that you were simply defending 'Mode One' ..."
The only time I jump into a debate, or respond to someone, is when they FIRST 'attack' the virtues of Mode One Behavior and/or Direct Behavior in general. That phenomenon used to happen on AskMen.com
between 2003 and 2006. At first, I had nothing but rivals and adversaries on that Forum. Just about everyone on there perceived me as an attention whore and an antagonistic debater. But then, over a period of weeks and months, many of my former "critics" became some of my closest friends.Why the change of heart?
Because when they allowed themselves to become more objective
, they saw that the reason why I was involved in so many arguments, exchanges and debates is because people were always trying to attack and invalidate The Mode One Approach
. And as the Author of Mode One, I'm never going to allow that to happen
This whole issue was initiated by your actions (to be fair I wasn't there to see this):
"At the end of Yad's talk, Alan Roger Currie grabbed the microphone and verbalised some disagreements with something that Yad had said, and the two had a bit of a verbal spar on stage."
Not totally true. #1, Yad and I were never on stage together. Yad spoke on stage right before me on the 2nd Day of The Direct Approach Dating Summit. At first, I was just listening to him. But as I said in my very first post in this thread, he started attacking the idea of being verbally straightforward with women
You're describing things as if Yad was simply talking on stage, and I just started "attacking" him for no reason. Uhm .... no. Yad was taking jabs at the idea of verbalizing your sexual intentions to women.
So ... you think I'm just going to sit there, and essentially allow him to attack and/or invalidate Mode One & verbally direct approaches?? If so, you're nuts, and you don't know me very well. I'm always
going to defend the effectiveness of Mode One Behavior and verbally direct behavior. Always
Then on the comments thread for the Paul Janka podcast (which was followed by other comments)...
?Bold, Upfront, Straightforwardly honest behavior is the ?weakest thing you can do??!?!? WOW.?
You only think you get pulled into debates or arguments because that's how you perceive it. You create a disagreeable atmosphere wherever you go and then blame others when they respond in a negative manner.
Read my response above. You're trying to 're-frame' this, but it's not going to work. It's not like I just came after Yad for "no reason." This guy clearly said in the Janka interview, "Verbalizing your sexual intentions (to a woman) is the weakest thing a man can do."
Do you REALLY think I'm going to let that fly??? If so, you have lost your damn mind. Once again ... I AM NEVER GOING TO SIT BACK AND ALLOW ANY DATING COACH, AUTHOR, GURU or OTHER PERSON IN THIS COMMUNITY / INDUSTRY TRY TO DEVALUE MODE ONE and/or VERBALLY DIRECT BEHAVIOR. NEVER.
I never have, and I never will.
Stop blaming other people for problems and disagreements you create for yourself. Your ego will no doubt react to this by automatically attacking me but I urge you to try to understand why you keep on doing this because if you don't then you'll remain a broken record that consistently keeps on playing the same garbled track over and over again.
EDIT: Also, no one asked you to start this thread so pretending you get dragged into arguments by other people is just plain stupid.
You want to know the #1 way to prevent me from debating with you and others? Simply say, "Alan's Mode One style does not fit my personality, but I'm sure it works great for a lot of guys. I choose to use other methods and techniques, and adhere to other principles and philosophies, and I just don't think Mode One is a good fit for me."
(or something like that)
I guarantee you and others ... when guys make comments like those, I never engage them in an argument or debate. Never.
It is only when guys say stuff like, "Mode One only gets you laid with ugly chicks...." or "Being verbally direct is dating suicide...." or "You're gonna get kicked out of nightclubs being sexually straightforward with women ... that is crazy!" See, when you say shit like this, I'm going to come back guns blazing
Again ... good day mate.