New Years Resolutions

[Charleston]

Ok, its 2011 or very close. As per tradition, I decided to make myself a set of New Years Resolutions. I've been pretty good at sticking to these sorts of rules before, so hopefully this will go well.

I put this up on my Facebook page and tagged some of my nearest and dearest because I wanted to be held accountable if I failed to live up to any of these:

"Due to the fact that I spent the whole of first year at uni basically fucking around (and not the good sort of fucking around either), my grades weren't good enough to do a year abroad next year. It really hit home when my friends started telling me about all these exotic places that they were going. Even though I've been enjoying my second year so far, I was flooded with thoughts of my fuck-ups, missed opportunities and regrets. While it was tempting to wallow in them, I've vowed that I will instead make the most of my time. One door may have closed, but that isn't the end of things.

So here goes....

 Timewise, I'd hate to think how many hours I'd lost to CollegeHumor, YouTube, Cracked.com, Facebook and all those other massive time sinks (aka. porn). I've also grown a bit too attached to my bed, doing 10 or 11 hours when I don't need to be up for anything. I've missed important things this year to stay in bed, so...

1. Limit my usage of the internet to 1 hour per day, with a target of 1/2 an hour or less.

2. Reduce "usage of porn" to maximum twice per week, hopefully getting it down to once.

3. 6 to 8 hours sleep a night. Always set an alarm and put it out of arms reach. Use the snooze no more than once.

 Moneywise, I am slightly ashamed to admit how much money I spent on Amazon last year, and even though now I have a very good DVD, book and music collection, it would definately be a good idea to reign it in.

4. I will not buy another DVD, book or game until I have watched/read/played everything that I have already. The supply from the LUU music library is more than sufficient to keep me going musicwise.

5. Learn to enjoy nights out when sober. Not going to be tea-total, but I don't feel the need to have beers every time I go out. I don't drink that much anyway, so this shouldn't be too difficult.

Now that I have gained an extra 5 or so hours a day....

6. Fill this newly liberated time well. Put work first, then practicing skills, then everything else. Leave little to no room for faffing about.

 7. Yes Man. Unless I have a really good reason, I will not dither and make excuses when good oppertunities present themselves. I will not be passive about this either, I will actively seek out good oppertunities. I want to be pushed out of my comfort zone, to do things that scare me and to hopefully get some good stories out of it. Furthermore, learn to talk to ALL strangers (not just the pretty ones).

 8. Cut down on dishonesty and bullshit. I don't consider myself a dishonest person, no more than most people. Its the common or garden variety of dishonesty that we do every day that I want to cut down on. Don't give people compliments that I don't believe in, don't pretend I agree with someones oppinion to avoid discussion, don't say things behind someones back when I think they should hear it to their face. I hope that others will reflect this honesty back at me and hold me accountable for my actions. I will never apologise for honesty.

 9. Take up a new skill. Preferably something active, either outdoorsy or perhaps a martial art. If someone has a good suggestion, I may have to say yes to it. Meanwhile, don't give up on the violin or anything else that I am doing currently. Currently thinking something like Parkour would be fun or something that would involve camping/trecking.

 10. Continue with the reading that I did in 2010. It probably won't be possible to do quite as much; first year in Leeds, I had lots of free time on accounts of being a loser.

 11. Put the money saved on books, films, games and alchohol towards travelling. I could easily afford a couple of very decent trips with the money I spent last year. Get some real experiences, rather than sitting around reading about them.

 12. Be thankful for what I've got. I can't help but feel that this whole thing came off as a bitter or having a sense of entitlement. "Don't be a dick" should be more than a New Years Resolution, but more like the One Commandment. So I'm just going to say "Hey, things could be better but at least they could be worse".

I'm going to try and overcome any bitterness and hopefully by the end of the year, I will be able to say "I am thankful for each one of my past regrets, for without them I may not be in the position that I am now".

 
Thanks guys. Spread the love."

Those are mine. Over the next few days, I'm hoping to reduce some of them them into smaller, more quantifiable goals (eg. "Talk to 3 strangers per day" for example).
So guys, any suggestions for ways to stick to these? Anything I should add/change?

Finally, what are your new years resolutions, daygame related or otherwise?

[Tony]

1. Limit my usage of the internet to 1 hour per day, with a target of 1/2 an hour or less.

3. 6 to 8 hours sleep a night. Always set an alarm and put it out of arms reach. Use the snooze no more than once.

 7. Yes Man. Unless I have a really good reason, I will not dither and make excuses when good oppertunities present themselves. I will not be passive about this either, I will actively seek out good oppertunities. I want to be pushed out of my comfort zone, to do things that scare me and to hopefully get some good stories out of it. Furthermore, learn to talk to ALL strangers (not just the pretty ones).

 8. Cut down on dishonesty and bullshit.

Those wil work for me too

So guys, any suggestions for ways to stick to these?

There's only one way: you have to (badly) want to stick to them. As far as I know that's the only way.

Finally, what are your new years resolutions, daygame related or otherwise?

In addition to those I just stole from your list, I'd like to face more fears in 2011. One of my biggest fears is a fear of heights when I'm out in the open.

[Metal Mike]

1. Dedicate the next decade to hedonism.

2. Cool down and relax maaaan.

3. Write some music and maybe demo some songs before the year is out. At least 3 by the end of March (even if they're shite)

4. Get down to the gym and take up swimming.

I feel better about talking to the opposite sex these days and can talk to more or less anyone with ease now, so anxiety on that level is no problem, now need to get down with transitioning into something more. Honestly though I think it best for everyone not to worry too much about their success with women. My honest opinion is that it has been the main focus of my life for a few years and all else was pushed aside and really I think a lot of us are guilty of this. Rather it should be PUA or whatever thats the side thing at the end of the day. Its hard to think like that if your success with the opposite sex has so far been minimal, but I'd say it is a neccessity.

[Tony]

I wonder how everyone is doing?

We're some 45 days into 2011 and I'm doing pretty well, if I may say so. I'm still doing the things in the little list almost every day/time and I feel confident to keep the momentum going

[Viscount]

Hey Tony,

Glad you prompted me to ask myself this question!

At the beginning of the year I set my self targets to achieve so that I can have definite milestones to measure my progress. And I am so motivated at the moment that I am ahead of schedule on all of them!

What I at the beginning of this month was look back at them and ask myself the question "how can I accelerate this?" and found myself looking for answers to speed up the process. One example is being more focused on what I wanted to achieve. This really helped me.

Great question though! Hope you are progressing against your goals also!

Peace

V

[Charleston]

I've actually been doing pretty sound on my resolutions. I've had a few lapses and have recently found myself falling back into a couple of old habits, but otherwise I've been doing pretty good. For example, I have found myself on more than one occaision not making work a priority, but I have filled my free time well (I have very little downtime, I do ballroom tuesdays, African drumming wednesday, swing dance on Thursday and Friday). I have bought a total of 2 books and 1 DVD since the beginning of this year, which is a massive change. Appart from one pub crawl, I have spent very little money on alchohol.

Overall, I'd say that I'd say that I'm doing 7/10.

[danny4u]

Ok, its 2011 or very close. As per tradition, I decided to make myself a set of New Years Resolutions. I've been pretty good at sticking to these sorts of rules before, so hopefully this will go well.

I put this up on my Facebook page and tagged some of my nearest and dearest because I wanted to be held accountable if I failed to live up to any of these:

"Due to the fact that I spent the whole of first year at uni basically fucking around (and not the good sort of fucking around either), my grades weren't good enough to do a year abroad next year. It really hit home when my friends started telling me about all these exotic places that they were going. Even though I've been enjoying my second year so far, I was flooded with thoughts of my fuck-ups, missed opportunities and regrets. While it was tempting to wallow in them, I've vowed that I will instead make the most of my time. One door may have closed, but that isn't the end of things.

So here goes....

 Timewise, I'd hate to think how many hours I'd lost to CollegeHumor, YouTube, Cracked.com, Facebook and all those other massive time sinks (aka. porn). I've also grown a bit too attached to my bed, doing 10 or 11 hours when I don't need to be up for anything. I've missed important things this year to stay in bed, so...

1. Limit my usage of the internet to 1 hour per day, with a target of 1/2 an hour or less.

2. Reduce "usage of porn" to maximum twice per week, hopefully getting it down to once.

3. 6 to 8 hours sleep a night. Always set an alarm and put it out of arms reach. Use the snooze no more than once.

 Moneywise, I am slightly ashamed to admit how much money I spent on Amazon last year, and even though now I have a very good DVD, book and music collection, it would definately be a good idea to reign it in.

4. I will not buy another DVD, book or game until I have watched/read/played everything that I have already. The supply from the LUU music library is more than sufficient to keep me going musicwise.

5. Learn to enjoy nights out when sober. Not going to be tea-total, but I don't feel the need to have beers every time I go out. I don't drink that much anyway, so this shouldn't be too difficult.

Now that I have gained an extra 5 or so hours a day....

6. Fill this newly liberated time well. Put work first, then practicing skills, then everything else. Leave little to no room for faffing about.

 7. Yes Man. Unless I have a really good reason, I will not dither and make excuses when good oppertunities present themselves. I will not be passive about this either, I will actively seek out good oppertunities. I want to be pushed out of my comfort zone, to do things that scare me and to hopefully get some good stories out of it. Furthermore, learn to talk to ALL strangers (not just the pretty ones).

 8. Cut down on dishonesty and bullshit. I don't consider myself a dishonest person, no more than most people. Its the common or garden variety of dishonesty that we do every day that I want to cut down on. Don't give people compliments that I don't believe in, don't pretend I agree with someones oppinion to avoid discussion, don't say things behind someones back when I think they should hear it to their face. I hope that others will reflect this honesty back at me and hold me accountable for my actions. I will never apologise for honesty.

 9. Take up a new skill. Preferably something active, either outdoorsy or perhaps a martial art. If someone has a good suggestion, I may have to say yes to it. Meanwhile, don't give up on the violin or anything else that I am doing currently. Currently thinking something like Parkour would be fun or something that would involve camping/trecking.

 10. Continue with the reading that I did in 2010. It probably won't be possible to do quite as much; first year in Leeds, I had lots of free time on accounts of being a loser.

 11. Put the money saved on books, films, games and alchohol towards travelling. I could easily afford a couple of very decent trips with the money I spent last year. Get some real experiences, rather than sitting around reading about them.

 12. Be thankful for what I've got. I can't help but feel that this whole thing came off as a bitter or having a sense of entitlement. "Don't be a dick" should be more than a New Years Resolution, but more like the One Commandment. So I'm just going to say "Hey, things could be better but at least they could be worse".

I'm going to try and overcome any bitterness and hopefully by the end of the year, I will be able to say "I am thankful for each one of my past regrets, for without them I may not be in the position that I am now".

 
Thanks guys. Spread the love."

Those are mine. Over the next few days, I'm hoping to reduce some of them them into smaller, more quantifiable goals (eg. "Talk to 3 strangers per day" for example).
So guys, any suggestions for ways to stick to these? Anything I should add/change?

Finally, what are your new years resolutions, daygame related or otherwise?

my thoughts exactly

[chanda3]

simply like this!