I've always heard of people talking about the importance of opening really hot girls that you're attracted to because of the fact that when you compliment her, what you are saying will naturally come across as more sincere. BUT THERE'S SO MUCH MORE TO IT!
Today I was gaming at one of my usual haunts - a semi-busy mall in New York - when a really gorgeous, tall, fit, well-dressed blonde (a personal 10 for me) slipped past me and into an Apple store. Now normally, I get really deep into my own head when taller 10's (I'm about 5'10", she must have been 6'1") pass me by, and sort of assume I have no chance with them. They usually walk with this effortless confidence and elegance that makes me [wrongfully] think they are surrounded by Brad Pitt-level men. And before anyone jumps on me, I already know, it's the wrong head space...but I'm human!
Anyway, today I decided to pony up and make the approach. Normal Yad opener with a compliment on how awesome her dress was (it fit her and complimented her body beautifully...girl had solid style and she knew it), banter about her nationality and travels, the game is on. I almost choked when I delivered my opener because she was even prettier up close and had an amazing smile, but I kept my game face on, maintained great body language and eye contact, and teased her a little. Turns out she's a model from Turkey (who knew there were models in Turkey?) and she had a great personality and sense of humor... Tom and John always say confident girls are much friendlier, after all. But, long story short, I number closed (couldn't instant date because she really was waiting for her friends in the Apple store - they came up after our interaction) and now we're still texting - I'll be taking her to an art studio/beer tasting in Brooklyn on Thursday.
But! That's not the point of my post. The point is what happened after the number close. Because I'd successfully closed a personal 10, I felt invincible. I continued gaming a few more sets instead of just leaving on a high note. I found that because I had just closed this stunning specimen of a woman, every other girl paled in comparison to her. How could any girl possibly blow me out? I'd just closed an actual model! What did I care if they didn't like what I was offering? If a 10 bought it, that just meant that they must have been silly for turning me down (the need for external validation isn't the best mindset, I know, but it honestly helped me here). Because I felt so high value, it translated through to my outer self. My body language was chill and on point. I didn't come across as needy because I'd already been sufficiently validated. And I finished these sets only with the express purpose of having a good time... With no care or respect for the outcome.
Out of 5 sets, 5 were number closes. 1 of which actually asked ME on an instant date. 3 others which turned out not to be flakes. 4/5 ain't bad odds, in my opinion. But again, my stats aren't the purpose for this post. All I'm saying is if you're feeling in a slump and a drop dead gorgeous girl passes you by, make sure she is the one you definitely approach. Mandatory. No excuses. No backing down. The rest of your day depends on it, because if she shoots you down, it's just one more rejection that means absolutely nothing. But if she hooks and you close, it's like getting the Star power in Mario Bros. You become invincible.
The rest is up to you...
Shout outs to John Matrix and Tom Torero. Spot on advice.
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