26 year old virgin who has fear of being intimiate among other issues...

[SirNG]

I'm a former obese almost 26 year old virgin.  I've never had a gf and have just had two pecks on the lips from two different girls.  I lost most of my weight years ago but as a result of social anxiety and self esteem issues never even started to approach girls untill a year ago.

But I've been doing day game for a year and have only been on two dates with one girl...most of the time I attempt to do it I just wander around aimlessly for hours.

I just have a couple of issues I cannot get over.  In regards to approaching girls, I don't fear rejection at all, in fact find it funny, but I always am scared of humiliation or having other people overhear what I'm doing when in a setting like a cafe, especially when I'm a regular.

I'm also scared of getting intimate with a woman.  I don't escalate at all in sets.  I am just scared due to a few reasons, I am self conscious about my body.  I look fine with clothes on but have some loose skin/scars and don't know how girls would react.  I also have no idea WTF to do in regards to kissing or anything, and don't know how a woman will react to me being a 26 yo virgin.

I've had two instances where I basically had woman throw themselves at me (I'm assuming they wanted to have sex with me) and I basically ran away out of fear.  When I was kissed on one of my dates I also froze in horror and just stood there as she kissed because I had no idea what to do.

Also, when I walk around with intention of doing nothing but day game I don't seem to be successful at all.  I go indirect most of the time (for some reason I have trouble going direct even though I found it fun whenever I have done it).  Most of my # closes have come when I haven't been trying/focusing on "I need to approach and open this girl and ask her out"

Any advice on how to get over these issues?  I've been wanting to put this stuff past me for years, seeing other people in similar situations have done it.  I have really ramped it up to improve my life in the last year, but am hung up on these issues in my head and feel stuck.

Thanks

[Lord Vader]

Sounds like a pretty typical case of AA, maybe you could find yourself a wing, someone to push you, that's what I'm doing.

[Stephen]

The only true way to get over the fear of something is by constantly exposing yourself to it. There's no real shortcut, but having your friends push you into set's will definitely help!