IMO it is best to not be nervous (easier said than done) but if you are, verbalising your nervousness is the way to go. It is a lot less akward than hiding your nerves.
exactly! not only is honest much better in general but she will appreciate it more. its true that some women will reject you for it but the VAST majority of them will not, and will in fact appreciate it more. they love a man who can do what they cannot and no woman would ever go up to someone and tell them they like them when they are that nervous!
I think he also suggested showing nervousness as a way to stop yourself being the falsely smooth guy. Its better to be nervous and honest than put up a front of being too cool.
I think it was also said to help peoples confidence. It helped me, knowing that its ok to be nervous when talking to a very attractive girl.
indeed, i did say that. er, did i say that in the podcast?! or are you talking about someone else?
anyway, i digress. its amazing the power of verbalisation when it comes to taking the pressure out of a situation. and if you can take the pressure off yourself in any pick up then you are half way there.
If I am really nervous I walk up to them with a big grin on my face and say "Hang on a sec" till I get it together.... I kinda tailored the Marcus Oakey silent approach to my own personality. There is a great video on this site and it really does work...
haha, im loving that! totally stealing it for my students
have some karma.