[N.B. I?m going to write ?challenge? a lot. Also I?m going to call ?daygame? ?streetchat?]
I?ve been doing a 21 day challenge. 10 compliment approaches every day for 21 days. This challenge has been really challenging for this challenger, especially as I have a full time job and am often busy in the evenings. I don?t really have much approach anxiety, that?s not a challenge ? the point of the challenge was to test whether I could stick at something. After the Easter weekend I?m a bit behind with the challenge, but something occurred to me when I was out this lunchtime doing the challenge: 15 approaches in an hour after the Easter break.
I often wonder why I get hardly any approach anxiety now, so that others who are struggling might take something from it. I?ve written other articles about GIVING and living in the PRESENT, and both those are true, but today I realised things:
1. If you are going out ?gaming?, especially to do your 10 approach challenge, there is pressure, and the pressure is that you have to do something in a certain time limit. This relates to wanting to get something and living in the future (anticipating failing). However, if instead you are just ?going for a walk and running over to something (one) when it (she) takes your fancy?, there?s no sense of anticipation, and doing this challenge is much easier. Then I find the approaches flying by no problem.
2. Women LOVE it! I?ve known this intellectually for some time, and girls have told me again and again, but now I?m starting to FEEL it ? which is much better than knowing. With this ?knowledge?, I?m starting to find it hard not to approach. But then again I have done 120 approaches in the last 14 days.
3. Practise makes perfect. I spent years saying ?yes I know? to this point, but then not practising! My first problem with the challenge was hoping that each approach would be great, but after the tedium of doing it 10 times a day set in, my only concern was just getting the job done. You might think that this is a negative mindset for streetchat, but it?s not. It?s not because it?s no bad thing for your teeth to not be stressed when brushing, if that makes sense.
Understanding that last sentence may be a challenge.
That?s 14 ?challenge?s (including the last one).