Pick Up In China

[chicojonge]

Hey guys,

Ive been doing the direct method for the last 6 months with pretty good success, around in in 5 approaches leads to a date etc! Anyway Ive just moved to a big city in China. Its my second day here and yesterday i asked a woman for directions and she gave me her number saying to call her if I ever need anything lol!

Im getting a lot of attention from women here, looks when walking down the street, smiles etc. Also Ive suddenly becoma a giant, Im 6.1 and I think Ive only seen one person the same height as me!

Im excited about all the female attention but dont know how to play it! Id like to have many open relationships, like I vaguely know Jonny Soporno says! So when I meet a chick on the first date etc tell her that I am looking for an open relationship. Or is that too blunt?

What should I do guys?

Cheers in advance!

James

[archer1000]

Are you asian yourself?

i think asian guys have it harder in the western world but back home in china they probably do quite well. its just that asian guys battle against a very bad stereotype with western women, which makes life tougher.

[chicojonge]

Hey,
no, I?m not Asian! Im European, fair hair and green eyes! Theyre arent many westerners where I am so I stand out! I plan on using it to my advantage and having some fun  !
James

[Rumba!]

I'd say that you don't want a g/f right now, but just want to meet people and have fun together. Remember that while standing out will have some advantages, you'll also be very noticeable when going out and if there's one thing the Chinese love to do, it's gossip!!
I lived in Shanghai which has a lot of Westerners, but I was amazed how many times a collegue at work would say to me "Oh, you were in xxxx bar last night, then?!" and I'd reply "Errr, yes. Were you there too?!" and they'd tell me no, but a friend saw me there.
Now this might not seem to bad, but if your seen with a lot of different girls it can get around quickly, which if your just on a short visit isn't an issue but if your working there, may create some unwanted rumours!

Peace,
Rumba! 

[chicojonge]

Hey,

thanks for the advice! It makes sense as tonight I went for dinner with people from my school and they told me about a guy who?s been here for a few months and has been acting the idiot, drinking too much etc. So I see that rumours/gossip can spread etc!

I really like the women here, they are very attractive, and are all nice and thin etc! I dont see many Westerners myself when I walk around, so I really do stand out. How can I approach them, what technique do you recommend that I do? Do you think they would be up for an open relationship etc?

Your advice is much appreciated!!

Thanks,

James

[Ghost219]

I have never lived in china but I do live in san Francisco and my roommate is a recent chinese immigrant so I am witness to her culture quite a lot. I will second the gossiping. After sleeping with a chinese girl that was only slightly connected to my roommates clique word spread to every person in that group in 24 hours. It was scary.

Ghost

[Kaizen]

In which city do you live James? Sounds very cool! I have been to Shanghai a few times and there are indeed a couple of hotties out there! China is a very different culture from the West, so I don't know the 'willingness' of Asian women to be in an open relationship. On the other hand, If the Chinese wouldn't be fucking, there wouldn't be 1.6 billion of them!

Just for laughs:

[Ghost219]

My understanding is that open relationships in traditional chinese culture are rare. As my roommate puts is chinese girls are very "sticky".

Ghost

[chicojonge]

Thanks for the advice guys! Today I met a beautiful Chinese girl on the metro. We got off at the same stop so I said hello! The first thing she said to me was that I was beautiful. Also tomorrow I am meeting another Chinese girl that I met a few days ago! The women here are just unbelievable. Very cute and very beautiful, and nice as well! I dont want them to be too "sticky" as you say though. So what angle can I come from when I start a relationship with them. I guess I could say that I am just here for a year, which is true, and also that I am working a lot so can?t meet very often (which is also kinda true). So these could act as natural constraints on the relationships.
I have to say China is a haven for daygame. No one else here does it! And they like foreigners, they have a genuine fascination for us! I dont like however how older men come here and take advantage of younger women, by flaunting their money etc! I consider myself a genuine nice guy, and Im 26, but the thought of older men coming here and hooking up with younger women gives me a distasteful feeling!
James

[Ghost219]

My roommate had a somewhat casual relationship with a foreign (French we are in the US) and it basically had all the constraints that you just suggested. Although she is still "sticky" I here about this guy still almost every other day. But good luck have some fun and share whats working for you.

Ghost

[Rumba!]

James,

I'd be honest about the fact that you are going to be there only for a year. As you quite rightly mention, this prevents any thoughts of you becoming a long term boy friend and also prevents the girl from getting hurt if you suddenly mentioned it a month before you left the country!
In terms of advice for you, I'd just say be yourself and you'll do fine! As you've probably already discovered:

# Your unique in terms of looks.
# You have the confidence to approach girls and chat to them (which puts you ahead of 95% of the resident population!).
# Your from overseas which should give you loads of credit as Chinese girls love guys who've travelled, even if it's only to a few countries!
# You have an interest in their culture, which will earn you a lot of kudos.

In terms of a few specific tips:
# Don't go to one area time after time to do day game. This isn't Oxford Street or Times Square, where no one will notice what your doing. The fact that you stand out will mean that you'll be noticed and to keep going to the same place to approach girls, will possibly get you some unwanted attention. Try and go to at least five or six places. You mentioned an approach on the metro, which is good. Shops, markets etc..all provide oppertunities. The old daygame classic of asking what to buy/how to cook line works well in these places (field tested!  ).
Indirect openers such as directional/situational/opinion work well as a lot of girls may be overwhelmed by a foreign guy comming up to them, to compliment them, so by just starting a conversation, you can still build comfort and attraction with the girl.
Kareoke is masively popular in China and quite cheap, so if you have a half decent voice, it's a great idea for a D2 (and a quiet place for isolation  !)
Have fun and keep us posted!

Peace,
Rumba! 

P.S. As for the Sugar Daddy issue you mentioned, it's a sad fact that for many poor Chinese girls an older rich guy is the only ticket out of a life of poverty. I've seen it in Russia as well, and you've only got to go to Thailand and see the number of old British guys with young girls, to know it's not only China. Try and ignore it and bring some fun and happiness to girls because of who you are and not how much cash you have in your wallet!

[chicojonge]

Hey guys,

Ghost thanks for the advice!

And Rumba thanks for your words of wisdom! Youve given me good perspective!!

James

[craze6663]

go up to a girl and say "chin chong chin chin chong.........what did I say?"

never been to china, but i would assume that would work

[Amazin]

go up to a girl and say "chin chong chin chin chong.........what did I say?"

never been to china, but i would assume that would work

are you serious? don't stereotype

[MMH]

go up to a girl and say "chin chong chin chin chong.........what did I say?"

never been to china, but i would assume that would work

Umm, OK... that's borderline racism. Well done.