Using Facebook to meet new girls when I don't have anybody on my contact list

[spy4u]

Hello, a few weeks ago, I removed all my contacts from my facebook profile and erased everything (comments, wall posts, pics and videos) from my profile. I decided to keep my private life, private. Now I would like to know if there is a way to meet new girls by using Facebook if I don't have any contact or activity on my wall ...  I think the girls would find this creepy. Don't you think?  Do you have any suggestion about how to use Facebook without adding any girls or guys on my contact list?

Thanks for your help!

[Charleston]

Wait, so you got rid of everything on Facebook including friends, but decided to keep Facebook anyway, just so that you could contact girls?

There's something about that which strikes me as inherently creepy. Either go the whole way and just delete FB or act like everyone else and use privacy settings where appropriate.

[spy4u]

In fact, I kept my facebook profile because I started a facebook page last summer and I will use this page for promoting a little business I want to start.  This is the only reason I kept my facebook account and also for other people that want to contact me easily.

[Tom Torero]

A FB tip for entourage.....

Set up a new page that you're just going to use for events....a club night, random fun, socialising. Give it a name and begin by adding friends / girls you already know who'd be up for it. Add photos.

When you close girls using FB (short set, big groups etc) do a "party close" and tell them that you put together social events and you'll add her to the list. She can add her friends too.

Be Mr Sociable for a few months. Invite every fun, outgoing girl you meet, not just the HB10s. Very quickly you can get 50-100 people.

Now the fun begins....organise an event (club, bowling, river, bikes, shisha, film) and get as many people out as possible.

By simple probability, you're going to get laid using this FB entourage if you put the work in. It's something I do on the side and it's a great excuse to get out there and do more than just cold approaching. Hope that helps.

Tom Torero

[spy4u]

Very good idea Tom.  Yesterday I finally add a few contacts on my facebook profile.  I added a few friends (I have just 4), some members of my family (2) and a few acquaintances (3).  That's all.  Creating a profile like you said is not very easy for me because, like I said, I have only a few friends and they don't go out in bars and clubs anymore.  They are quiet people.

[Kaizen]

Be careful with that stuff. If multiple people cancel your friend requests or deny your messages to them, you will get a penalty: you won't be able to send messages / friend requests to people you don't know. Know this from experience: Girls I approached during the day, I added them on FB. But the approach wasn't good enough, so they denied my requests....which resulted in the penalty

[spy4u]

Be careful with that stuff. If multiple people cancel your friend requests or deny your messages to them, you will get a penalty: you won't be able to send messages / friend requests to people you don't know. Know this from experience: Girls I approached during the day, I added them on FB. But the approach wasn't good enough, so they denied my requests....which resulted in the penalty

You're right Kaizen.  It happened a few times to me last year.  I think I will just add people I know.  It will keep a little mystery.  The best thing maybe to send them a message and waiting a few days to add them.

[Kaizen]

It starts with a 7 day penalty (of not being able to send message / friend requests to people you don't know), then 14, then 30....

[MMH]

I'm not one for messaging girls via Facebook. I once did it for a girl I saw appear on the news once as she had done some writing and had been featured. Bizarrely she knew a mutual friend who went to school with her. I didn't pursue this anyway as I felt it was best left so as to not be stalker-ish - the conversations started drifting a tad and my social intelligence told me that though it was obvious she was initially flattered by my congratulations, it was best left alone.

As a general rule, I don't really use it to meet friends, and I don't care to add many people to appear 'cool' or 'popular' or whatever. In fact I have a purge every couple of months where I get rid of people I frankly don't give a fuck about. Having said that, I do intend to use it for the means which Tom suggests at some point, but all the same, I have friends who are attractive and who's friends are also attractive, so fingers crossed I can start inviting them out soon. Sadly they're based quite a long way away for the most part right now.

[OpalLang]

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