Daygame Mailbag: Tips for younger Daygamers

[Love man]

Hey there knobs,

really love the fact that your back in action, hope you've fully recovered from the Blueprint and enjoying all of that freshly made money pouring in the Daygame HQ.

For the Daygame mailbag, I would like to drop a request for some tips for younger Daygamers. Because I'm 19 I feel like the older girls 20+ are out of my league, and I strongly believe that it's true. So I'm trying to focus on girls that look like my age. I don't ever approach 16/17 year olds because they usually travel in packs or protected by parents (and I'm also scared that while they may look like 16/17, they are actually 14/15).

[Charleston]

This summer I met a pair of 16 year olds who went out gaming every day. They were hooking sets, instant dating and number closing way better than I was.

[Love man]

1: Were they approaching girls their own age and below?
2: Were they approaching indirect or DIRECT?

Because if they were approaching girls older than themselves and they were doing INDIRECT, I can imagine that they were friend-number-closing them and friendly-chit-chat-instant-dating them.

[Charleston]

They were following the same Daygame model that everyone else on this forum follows.
Also, I should probably mention that they still had spots and braces, so its not like they looked way above their age.

I'm 20 (ie. one year older than you) and have been doing this about a year. I've never had a girl ask me how old I am, its never been an issue.

I suspect this is one of those cases where you are looking for an excuse not to approach. On one level you know that its a bit silly, splitting hairs (being 19 and not approaching 20 year olds, seriously?), but on a deeper level, you have some approach anxiety, which is manifesting itself in illogical excuses.

[Love man]

Yeah it could be an excuse in some perticular cases. But I'm always able to be honest to myself, and, when I'm reviewing my daygame behavoir, tell wether or not I have let a girl slip because of an excuse I (in the moment subconsciously) made up grounded out of approach anxiety.

With this age issue, I really don't know what's up with that, and still believe (in my normal state of mind, not the aa-state of mind) that my odds are really small with girls 20+.

[Erelis]

Hey Love Man,

Love your post, i was having this issue for a little while also (I'm 17) until recently.

What Charleston says is 100% true - it's ALL in your head! I tell any girl who asks my real age and ive
still been able to #close and idate girls 10+ years older than me. It's simply a case of generating a lot of attraction. Women aren't gonna worry that your a little young if their totally into you.

Im not saying i haven't lost girls because of my age, all im saying is that with a lot of attraction, a girl won't
care about your age

It also creates a great banter topic - Our age difference will be our little secret!

Hope that helps

[Love man]

Cool thanks man that helps.

btw: How come you are Caf? VIP? Just curious what that means.

[Tom Torero]

The age thing is a limiting belief (16+, of course!)....I'm 32 and a girl I'm seeing from Switzerland right now is 18. In September I was with a Slovak woman from Oxford St who was 36. Use whatever "age gap" to your advantage....in your case, teasing the 20+ girls that they shouldn't be trying to chat up a toy boy.

With regards to the two twins, I know them well and they're an inspiration. Always out, always learning, always direct, progressing....wish I had learnt daygame when I was 16!

  TT

[Love man]

Yo Tom,

thanks for the advice. You're right I should be thankful to have all this knowledge presented to me at my age!

I can see that limiting belief fade away slowly these days.

I love the fact that you're BELIEFS, what you observe as reality, can change ever so easily. With just the matter of experiencing it a time or two.

[P.Duck]

Hey Love man, I'm currently 18 and I am getting out every day to game it up using the blue print.

Age has never hindered me in approaching,
I managed to # and fb close a 30year old today and she didn't care that I was younger at all...like the other guys have been saying "if she's into you then it won't matter".

Hope that helps, keep it tight.
P.DUCK.